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Being intimate and having Crohn's disease


Sun, July 10, 2016 10:59 AM

I am 23 years old and have Crohn's disease. I was was in remission until I had my son 2 and a half years ago. Ever since then I've had lots of complications such as fistulas and abscesses in my anal area and I've had a lot of problems with my vulva such as vaginal itching pain during sex etc. all these problems have really decreased my sex drive and a lot of time I don't want to have sex due to the pain in my anal area and recently I've had a lot of pain in my vulvar area. Even when I do feel okay physically, emotionally I feel awful. I feel disgusting because I have a seton in my anus and I have lots of scaring from surgeries. I just don't feel the way I used to about my body. I feel gross. My boyfriend and I have had a lot of strain in our relationship due to my problems. I guess I just wanted to know if anyone struggles with body image and intimacy having Crohn's disease. I just don't want to feel alone 🙁

FPO vee9
Joined Jul 10, 2016

Mon, July 18, 2016 12:20 AM

 Reply posted for vee9.

Not sure how to put this where I won't get in trouble. I can only have martial relations about 1 time a month. The rest of the time my UC has put a stop to that. I have learned to love giving him pleasure. He stays happy and so do I. Not sure if this helps you but I can promise I'm happier knowing I'm still keeping him happy and satisfied.

FPO palerosia
Joined Jul 18, 2016

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