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Hi princess here.

Is anyone out there haveing guest for 2 week and staying with you. I am one of 2 adult children  who have our own familys my parents come home for about 2-3 weeks twice a year. My problem is My outher sibling don't even try to help with entertaing or haveing them over for a dinner or two or a sleepover there house. Now i love my parents very much but as anyone knows it changes the dinamics of the house they are not use to our crazy schedual and i seem to get overwelmed trying to make Mom Dad Husban Daughter and Son oh and my Great Dane happy. Help  for the Holidays please. any advice or words of wisdom would greatly apprieciated.

Happy Holidays

Princess

 Reply posted for blntnchrs.

Hi blintur.Princess here,

Sometime i think i have to do more and act lik superwomen becaus sociaty thinks us women are and i do a great job of hideing my pain and discomfort from my family expecial the kids ones 15 and 12 they realy thing i am superwormen My new years resolution is going to be NO and what does NO mean NO means dont ask me againg. so I will try very hard not to let outhers take advantage me and do only what i can. thank you for writting i very much appriciate it.

Also dose anyong feel they need to do more because they have a illness and you dont want any pity party around you I mean i stell want to feel needed and indepent and get up and shower  and do my hair and make up and look presentable for not only my family but for me. and let me tell you there are days the powder room and i spent alot of time to geather. and i am so wiped out i just want to sleep But some how i fight through it.

Sincerly Princess

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I would like to encourage you to communicate to your family your limits.  You know what they are.  There are things you can do and things you can't do.  And there is a time that you just can't do anymore.  I have found that it is frustrating when I don't communicate and just expect them to know my limits.  It is OK to ask them for help, we don't always have to be Superwoman.  It's OK to be sick.  Hope this helps, Christine

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Hi Kg Princess Here,

Why is the 6mp makeing you so sick I have been on this drug for 10 yrs.maybe the dose is to high because when they put me on 200mg i did notice i felt sick so they reduced it to 150mg then 100mg know I only take 50mg I hope with the Cimzia they will just stop it. 

Christmas eve and Christmas Day did go better then expected. eveyone did behave them selfs but my stomach was in knot before i arrived.

Mom and Dad are still here they might be leaveing friday we are expecting a big storm her in CT. But they Have been very helpfut I just wish my ouither sybling would do as much as i do.

Up date soon.

Princess    

 Reply posted for princess.

i hope all went well. let me know. i really hope you bowel movements become normal again quickly.

i had a great Christmas, ha, besides the fact Ive been toxic on the 6mp for over a month now. which means for over a month, I've been nauseous and vomiting. =/

-kg.

 Reply posted for kg.

Hi Kg,

well hear we are christmas eve and we all will be going to my sisters for dinner.I hopemy Brother in law dose not upset My Parents. They Have not seen him since he said some nasty things to them. I feel the anxiety starting been in the powder room 4 times already tylenal with codein is not slowing my bowel down. I will Meditate before we go or take a couple adivan so i will be calm. Give you a update later.

I with all my fellow chron friends a very merry Christmas and a Happy Healthy New Year.

All my love

Princess

 Reply posted for sfryburg.

Hi Princess Here,

thank you I know i should just say no but you have to understand my brother inlaw said some pritty rude things to my parents last time they were home. And My father will not stay at their house. a appology has never been given and my sister just went along with the rude remarks. Know my husban is giveing me crape about them staying with us i am in a tug of war and i realy dont know how to handle things. My mom gets on my husbans nerves. Well all I can say about that is he hasnt spoken to his mother in over a year.so he realy has no patients with older women or mother fiqurs.  Help me Help me anyone

Thank you for listening

Princess

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Baby-

Been there done that - Just say NO! Merry Christmas!

 Reply posted for kg.

Kg thank you for that info i very much apprieciate it. I hope you holidays are happy and calm.  I did communicate to my family that dont make you stress my stess. I said no negative talk about sertain family members, an i will not tolerate any pity party for me.

Thanks princess

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"Because body and mind are so closely interrelated, emotional stress can influence the course of Crohn's disease-or, for that matter, any other chronic illness. Although people occasionally experience emotional problems before a flare-up of their disease, this does not imply that emotional stress causes the illness. There is no evidence to show that stress, anxiety, or tension is responsible for Crohn's disease. No single personality type is more prone to develop Crohn's than others, and no one "brings on" the disease by poor emotional control."

this post came from the ccfa site itself.  under disease info then what is ibd.  it says the same for crohns and uc.  hope this helped a bit???

kg

 Reply posted for kg.

Kg do you believe you can stress yourself into symptoms and a flare up I always thought we had no control over a flareup please let me know i useualy flar in March and Oct sometimes in may. any one notice a pattern whith flarup change of season or stress?

Princess wants to here from you.

 Reply posted for princess.

no problem,  :]  glad i could help.

just dont stress yourself into a flare.

 Reply posted for kg.

Thank you very much for the words of wisdom. Ill keep telling myself that

Sincerly,

Princess 

 Reply posted for princess.

one word... communication.  :]

thet all LOVE you.  The'll understand.

Don't worry.

-kg.