I am 27 years old, but have gone back to school to finish my degree. I'm moving into an appartment on the 22nd. I do not know the girls I have been placed with. They are all about 20 years old. It's a great place. Each roommate has a private room, there are two bathrooms (which generally are shared with one roommate specifically), a dining room, a "living room", full sized fridge, and a stove.
My guess is that the three lived together last semester. I don't know them at all and am working on an email to send them before they come back and I move in to tell them about myself and find out what things they do and do not have.
Here's what I need help with: Should I tell my three rooommates in the email that will be my first contact with them? Should I just tell the one roommate I'll be sharing a bathroom with? When should I tell them if not the first time I contact them? How do I tell them?
I've told many people about my disease and am not ashamed of it. Usually when I tell a new person that I have Crohn's it is somehow brought up in conversation ("no i can't eat that." "why not?" "I have Crohn's disease etc" But, it's been years since I lived on campus and don't remember how I handled it before. I also haven't had roommates (other than family) since 2006, so that's why I need help.
I looked on the CCFA website but they didn't seem to have much to say on telling roommates about having IBD when you go to college.
So, please help me as soon as possible! I need to contact them sooner than later to find out what they have and what the place needs, not to mention introduce myself to them before moving in. When do I tell them? How do I bring it up? Do I tell them in my very first email to them or should I wait? PLEASE HELP ASAP!!!
Reply posted for MiButterflyWing.
I would also wait and meet them before you tell them about your Crohns. Let them get to know you first. If you write it in a Email they might think Oh now we are going to have this big problem with this person. But if they meet you and see how you are just like they are and you ease into it I don't think it will be a big deal. They will think Oh she's a nice girl it doesn't matter. Plus at that time you might be able to go into detail about your food. I eat SCD so I am not sure what you do. Are you stable right now.
Good Luck on going back to school.
MJP
I agree to wait until you meet your new roommates in person. Let them have the chance to get to know you first, then they can learn about your Crohn's after. I think it would be an easier conversation to have in person too.
Hope this helps and all the best as you return to school. That is awesome you are doing that. What are you studying btw?
Thanks
Joey
Reply posted for MiButterflyWing.
I would wait and not put it in the "intro" email. Then it would be judging the right time to discuss it.
Good for you on going back to school.
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