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Lonely and scared

Thu, September 13, 2018 3:26 PM

Hey everyone! My name is Mekenzie. I'm 20 years old and was diagnosed in April of 2018 with Chron's disease. I'm a sophomore in college; I'm a nursing major. Getting this diagnosis caused me to have to take a one year medical leave of school. Since my story is long I'll give a brief overview. I had my gallbladder removed, rectal surgery, a kidney stone removed, was diagnosed with beta thalassemia minor, malnutrition, life threatning C-diff colitis, and Chron's disease. I lost a lot of my friends and the majority of my hair. This is the hardest thing I've ever been thru and I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm watching my friends move on with their lives but it feels like I'm not moving on with mine. I know that I'll hopefully be starting back in January but sometimes its hard to stay positive. please share your story with me and offer any advice you have. I just want to talk to someone who's been thru this and understands how much life changes after this diagnosis. 

FPO mekenzieb
Joined Sep 13, 2018

Wed, September 19, 2018 7:47 PM

Reply posted for mekenzieb.

All the patients here have some things in common for sure, but we're all very unique, and have had unique experiences. Crohn's is just one of those diseases that varies a lot from person to person. I have Crohn's, before this year it was classified as UC since 2005, but I haven't really had much of the experiences you've described. I have yet to have any surgeries, but I am one of those patients that either doesn't respond very well to some medications, or initially responds, then stops responding after a year. I've been hospitalized twice. Last time I even started questioning my immediate mortality. I even found myself crying in my hospital bed, and in general I'm someone who copes pretty well with life's curveballs. I would never say something so meaningless like "try to stay positive", because that's effectively the same as asking a sad person to be happy for no reason. So, I'll ask a question instead. Have you tried everything? Have you gotten a lot of professional opinions from IBD specialists? Have you tried all the drugs out there that exist? If you answer no to any of these questions, then you definitely have hope.

This disease ebbs and flows. There will be bad days, but there should also be good days. Sometimes people get to remission all by themselves by doing nothing in particular. Also, I'd say, just make the threatment of your disease your top priority in life, and try to solve every problem one step at a time.

But if you still find it difficult to cope with on an emotional level when it's all said and done, there are doctors for that sort of thing as well, and seeing one is nothing to be ashamed of.

FPO kumputer
Joined Jul 19, 2013

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