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Don't give up!

Mon, July 11, 2011 11:00 PM

This is one of the few times I've not seen a new topic within the past couple days. I don't know know exactly what to make of that. I guess I'm happy that no one's been having new problems that they feel need to be addressed on here. I'm a little afraid however. I'm afraid someone might be avoiding voicing the pain that's taking hold of them. So speak if you need to! I'm actually available to talk at any given moment.

I've had Crohn's for almost a decade now so I know the pain it brings. All I can say is don't give up, regardless of how cheesy and repeated that is. Just make it to tomorrow, that's all I'm askin'.

pyrozack
Joined Aug 24, 2009

Wed, July 27, 2011 12:00 AM

Reply posted for PyroZack.

Hi Pyro...

Sounds like you're the one who needs a hug. I am so glad that you finally jumped back onto the forum. My advice is that when you start to feel anti-social, it's more important than ever to be around friends or family. This forum is both friends and family in a way. So glad you broke through that wall, at least.

We all go through this sometimes. Chronic pain causes all sorts of issues like depression and anxiety. Try to think of the things that are great in your life. Try really hard to focus on those things so you can kick this depression in the butt. Easier said than done, right? Get up and go outside, if you're able. The vitamin D will feel so good. Take a short walk, if you can, and watch for beautiful things. I did that today and I feel awesome! I came home wiped out, but it was so worth it!

Hang in there, and I hope you are happy soon! *hugs*

jessi messy
Joined Jun 4, 2011

Tue, July 26, 2011 10:52 PM

Reply posted for alanschachter.

Alan: To be honest, I've been too depressed to get on here and check the responses to this post. My emotions have just been wrecked and I'm just kinda losing it. At any rate - This is a difficult time and I remember it pretty vividly, honestly. Youngin's already have issues with identity, but this just makes it even worse.

Everything we're told is that our identity comes from what we do, like our jobs. That's one of the first questions someone asks, isn't it? "What do you do?" For the person with Crohn's, there's the awkward answer of, "I...erm...I'm on disability." So because of that, it leaves us shattered on yet another plane. From this, Crohn's basically becomes the identity. Personally, I'm still struggling separating the disease from me. This definitely is a time to make sure she knows that this isn't who she is. People are more than their political affiliations, their jobs, or orientations. I just hope she loves and believes in Jesus: With that, you effectively cancel out a lot of issues.

That being said...Crohn's still sucks...and it tries me at every turn. I'm not trying to give a chipper, cop-out answer. Really. I'd like to just be able to go hug you guys and weep with you.

Chrisbob: AAUUGGHH! Again! I want to just hug and weep with you! I finally got on to this site and seriously wanted to break down and cry over this. I hate this crap! There's sickness everywhere and there's jack we can do about it >.< GRR!! -heavy sigh- I apologize. Anyway. Continuing.

Depression does play a huge part in it. It gets worse the farther removed from people you are, or atleast I've noticed in my life. If there is any way for it, you might want to consider this: (Forgive me for presuming, but it will make it a little bit easier.) Churches are starting to have small groups that meet in different peoples' houses. They'll discuss the sermon, different topics, or just what's going on in the lives of others. If any of his friends attend one of these groups, it would be incredibly beneficial to get one to meet at his place so he won't be stressed about having to leave, use up their bathroom if he has to, etc. etc. It's helped me considerably.

Having sermons play on an iPod while playing video games, another good thing. Also, picking up sewing. It's awesome to have something that you can actually see being made by your own hands. That, and it takes very little energy, so it's a pretty good fit.

I'm sorry if this isn't a whole lot of help right now, I'm pretty beaten up myself. Like I said, my emotions have been going haywire lately and it's been hurting my relationships a little =/

pyrozack
Joined Aug 24, 2009

Fri, July 15, 2011 6:37 PM

Reply posted for PyroZack.

it is so cool to offer support. my son has had crohns 10 years now and the pain has destroyed his spirit and any normal life. depression plays a big role as drs do not have an answer 4 his pain, which keeps him from sleeping. he still will not associate himself with a C.sites/groups...any suggestions on coping with the cycle? tx!