I love someone with Crohn's but am new to all of this
Wed, January 14, 2015 1:29 AM
A year ago I met the person with whom I am sure I want to spend the rest of my life. When he told me he has Crohn's Disease, I didn't fully understand the severity of the situation. About a week ago he began having a flare-up, or at least the first flair-up he's confessed to having since we met. I feel so helpless!! I am a fixer and I cannot fix this. Any advice from those who love someone with Crohns? Can I do anything? How can I support him without smothering him or being a pest?
tinkerbell2Joined Jan 14, 2015
Sat, January 17, 2015 6:07 AM
Reply posted for jp15.
I actually just joined this tonight and was looking to find other people to talk to that are going through the same things so thank you too!:)
Joined Jan 17, 2015
Sat, January 17, 2015 6:05 AM
Reply posted for tinkerbell2.
You're welcome! I'm so glad it helped:) Ya I definitely agree it's comforting to know other people are dealing with the same situations. And yes just always encourage him to keep going and motivate him. It is extremely tough, but he can do it with your support:)
Joined Jan 17, 2015
Sat, January 17, 2015 5:56 AM
Reply posted for jp15.
Thank you!! This really does help. I've read dozens of articles but hearing directly from someone who is going through the same thing makes me feel more confident in myself. It breaks my heart to see him go through this but I will be sure he always knows I'm here however I can be
tinkerbell2Joined Jan 14, 2015
Sat, January 17, 2015 5:48 AM
I am in the same situation w/ my boyfriend. We met 2 years ago & he got diagnosed w/ Crohn's Disease July of 2014. He's been in a continuous flare for the past 7 months, has not been able to eat regularly, has lost tons of weight, & has gone through steroids that had no effect, & now Humira that doesn't seem to be helping either. I'm telling you this because it can get much worse & it's something you really have to prepare yourself for mentally. There will be so many times that you will get unbelievably frustrated & broken over what he has to go through. You will almost always feel helpless because truly the only thing you can do for him is be there for him w/ support & love. The best advice I can give you is to understand that you won't ever actually understand all the struggle he goes through. If you try to understand it you will only get frustrated & upset because no one can 100% understand what he goes through besides him. Also you have to accept the fact that you can't fix it no matter what you do. That was the hardest part for me to accept w/ my boyfriend. That no matter what I do I can't fix his pain & his problems. All that you can do is tell him you're there for him & that you're w/ him the whole way. You won't smother him or be a pest by being there for him. In the beginning I always thought I smothered my boyfriend because his mood was so different than before, but it has nothing to do with you at all. They are going through something that completely breaks them mentally and emotionally. So I can assure you, you won't smother him. He needs you to be there for him & accept him no matter how broken he becomes from his disease. Try your best to always make him laugh & put a smile on his face. I hope all my advice helps:) It's a crazy rollercoaster ride being w/ someone that has a chronic disease, but all of it is worth it for the love you share.
Joined Jan 17, 2015
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