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Girlfriend of Crohn's Patient


Wed, January 21, 2015 1:27 PM

i started dating my boyfriend last january, and he was diagnosed with crohn's in february. since then, he has had several flare-ups, which have placed significant stress on our relationship. he had moderate success with humira for a few months, but it's started to become less effective. he'll be beginning 6mp in a few weeks, and in addition to hoping this will work, i'm also worried about the effect this will have on fertility in the future. i love my boyfriend immensely, but his illness has placed a lot of stress on us. i know he feels alone and frustrated, and i feel helpless and am also frustrated with the illness; my boyfriend can no longer drink alcohol, participate in most active activities, or go for a full day without being in pain. i hate how much this is hurting him, but i also hate that we can't do all the things we want to do together. i really don't know what to do at this point to help him or to deal with the effect the disease is having on us.

FPO hannah320
Joined Jan 21, 2015

Sat, February 14, 2015 5:30 AM

 Reply posted for hannah320.

I SO understand. My fiancé has Crohns too. We can't even plan our wedding because we don't know how he will feel tomorrow.  We both want children, but I'm not sure if that can happen. I'm very frustrated/ concerned for him. We have been to so many ERs it's embarrassing. Some docs are great others treat him like a pain med addict.

FPO rubyshine
Joined Feb 14, 2015

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