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Pain with sex after rectovaginal fistula repair


Sun, September 19, 2010 9:07 AM

I had a repair of my rectovaginal fistula almost one year ago.  After the repair, I developed an abscess and I have since had a couple of more surgeries to fix the complications.  The problem is I am still having pain with sex.  I know things don't feel "right" but my doctor said my vaginal repair is good.  I am going in for a rectal exam under anesthesia later this week to check on the repair.  My main problem right now is that this is ruining my relationship with my fiance.  He has been very patient over the years but I think he is wearing thin.  We rarely have sex anymore because of the pain, not to mention that I am tired all of the time.  Has anyone had a problem with this and any advice?

FPO jennkrisb
Joined Sep 19, 2010

Thu, September 23, 2010 8:10 AM

 Reply posted for Jennkrisb.

I can totally relate. I starting getting fistulas in the same area about a 1 1/2 years ago and i haven't had surgery; but my gi doc has put me on remicade and it's helping a little. But yes sex still remains painful and it has put a big stress on my marriage. It began by me having to turn him away (which killed me) and lots of arguements and now there's distance. He doesn't understand how it feels and I'm an emotional reck all of the time. It's really casued a strain on our marriage and I really don't know how much longer it will last cause it's now leading to more issues. We've had two miscariages and have been trying to conceive for over a year; but when you can barely withstand the intercourse, that makes baby making very hard. We even turned to IUI's to help bypass the vaginal area, and still no baby. I'm not sure what to do either. My emotions are out of wack and I'm also so tired all of the time. I don't want to give up, but i don't know how to reach through to him & what else to do. I have a lot of faith in God and know that He can heal and turn this storm around; it's just starting to get really frustrating. I also believe that those of us going through this need to communicate and lean on each other for support because we can understand how each other feels. If you want to talk sometime, please email me at mkbelue@yahoo.com. It would be great to hear from someone who can relate and maybe we can help each other's relationship.

Take Care :)

FPO hesaves
Joined Nov 30, 2009

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