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Pregnancy with IBD

Mon, August 01, 2011 4:13 PM

I am writing here to basically whine to some women who may understand what I am going through right now.

I am about 8 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby (who was a surprise by the way.) All of my pregnancies have been similar and this one is no different- sick as a dog, lots of bleeding, etc, etc. This of course results in many ER trips, numerous doctor visits, and the bills that go with them.

My first two babies I wanted in the worst way and was willing to go through the torture of being pregnant and the mess that goes with IBD in order to have them. However, with this one being unexpected, I find myself feeling very resentful towards the little one and God for that matter. I know there are so many women out there who would do anything for a baby which makes me feel like I am a total ass for feeling this way. But... I am totally non-functional at this point between the nausea, diarreah, fatigue, arthritis, and heartburn. Feeling like this makes me totally depressed because I have such a type A personality. My first two kidos are really the ones that are having to suffer with this because I am pretty much useless as a mother at this point.

I visited my brand new niece the other day in hopes that her cute little face would give me a "light at the end of the tunnel" feeling, but it didn't help. I just wish I could go to sleep and wake up in March when it's over...

Hopefully there are other women out here who have as hard of a time with pregnancy that can empathize!

Thanks for listening!!

jenanne13
Joined Aug 1, 2011

Wed, August 03, 2011 2:43 PM

Reply posted for jenanne13.

I think there are alot of women who can absolutely relate. I wasn't diagnosed until after my two were born, but it may explain the difficulty we had conceiving our 2nd. I remember being obsessed with the baby making process. It took a long time and as soon as I gave up (or thought I did), surprise! I had already resorted to my oldest being the only. My pregnancies were uneventful, thank God, but I can definitely empathize w/you. Lots of women have nightmare pregnancies and don't have IBD.

At times it can be overwhelming (total understatement), especially w/two little ones to tend to, but it will get better. Try paying extra attention to what your diet is, rest ( I know, really), but try and drink lots of water to stay hydrated. It is so easy to become dehydrated. One thing you may want to try is buddying up w/another mom who has kids of similar age. Perhaps a playdate out would give you a much needed break and you could recipricate at a later date.

Remember perfect doesn't exist. Just do your best one day at a time. Doesn't matter if you aren't right on top of the housework, laundry, etc., there will be time to catch up.

Unfortunately there is not "fairy dust" to put you to sleep 'til March, but better days are ahead. Be well

Lizzies Mom

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